Imagine this. In your hand is a very precious creation, so fragile, so valuable that if you keep on holding, it would either stay or fall apart. But you loved this creature so much, so much that letting it go would be like letting go of your life as well. So much that sometimes you wished it would be there forever. So much that you tend to be selfish at times so as you could make it stay for as long as you like.
Don’t we all wish something “so good” could be forever? Don’t we all hope that happiness is there to stay?
There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone “sonice” and “almost perfect” and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually guzzles our thoughts and actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those “too good to be true” thing.
The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person feels totally nothing but friendship. A “thing” that would beforever a “thing” nothing more, nothing less… just a thing! You’rejust a friend, and that’s the fact! Then in our desperate attempt toget closer (or at least be noticed), our efforts are still futile and we end up sorry for ourselves.
One person said, never ever let your heart run your life, as much as you can, always be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Try tolisten not merely on what your feelings is invoking on you as a personbut more importantly listen to reason as well.
Letting go of someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop loving,it only means that you allow that person to find her own happiness without expecting her to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it isalso setting yourself free from all animosity, revulsion, and resentment that was long kept in your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope, making our lives more miserable than ever. Worst, presenting yourself as the “most affected one” sets the nastiest impression of all time–whatta a loser!
The trick there is…always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love…right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven! Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (growl even) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easy said than done I know!).
We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but realpeace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don’t have to forget someone you love (’cause it’s hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think its better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmmm…”Who could it be” is the next interesting question to ponder.
Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And whenit does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.