Have you remembered your first kiss? If you’re like most people, you would describe it as a magical occasion. Well, like everybody they described their first kiss as if their eyes were so filled with love, they didn’t see the pitfalls, twists and turns ahead. Were you also so certain you loved that person that you wouldn’t? Or listen to anyone who said that you didn’t? Or know the true feeling of love?
Well, in this regard it is easy to recognize love and to distinguish it from its legion of counterfeits. Love passes through three stages. Love is attentive, appreciative, and affectionate. By paying attention we focus on the truth of the other person. We listen with love as we tune in to the truth of the other, the truth that, however clumsily, the other is trying to express. Love shows appreciation by affirming the goodness of the other. And remember that the opposite of LOVE is not HATE, but APATHY. No one wants to be ignored, disregarded, or neglected. People want their truth to be heard, their goodness to be cherished, and their desirability to be felt. They want to be loved and just as all people, all of us want to be loved and all people want to express their love.
Love, therefore, must be patient as it advances from attention to appreciation to affection. Love takes time. “Love at first sight” is less likely than “like at first look”. When we sense that we like another person, we should be patient and temperate enough to get to know the truth and appreciate the good of that person so that our affection will be founded on something real.
Remember also that our Love doesn’t involve only people. There are many other loves and objects of love. We can love things, memories, ideas, beauty literature, music and GOD, Love isn’t restricted to the love of people. We can postulate that the most important object of love is people. That people are the central part of love, and that all other forms of love are just extensions and sometimes perversions such as the love of money. Love can be pure, cast or possessive, jealous and demanding fidelity. Love can be so possessive that it borders on paranoia.
We also believe that the popular notion about Love and Marriage is that they are synonymous, that they spring from the same motives, and cover the same human needs. Like most popular notions this also rests not on actual facts, but on superstition. Marriage and love have nothing in common; they are as far apart as the poles, antagonistic to each other.
Yes there are so lots more to tell about Love…But for me loving someone or loving things or other stuff is the greatest things here on earth that we can feel while were living…but for me…”LOVE IS NOT BLIND…THEY CAN SEE BUT THEY DON’T MIND”. Loving our self first before loving other person can make the relationship lasts..Focusing not only on your own self, or not on the mistakes of others but rather understanding, patience and acceptance can lasts everybody’s relationship.